“How dare you try to cast a dark shadow over one of the happiest, most memorable days of my life.”
There’s a colossal difference between a woman being coerced into having a child by her partner, and a woman deciding along with that partner to have a child.
In the case of Nikki Reed and Ian Somerhalder, it seems we have a classic misunderstanding between the two — at least, that’s what Twilight star Reed is claiming.
During a recent interview on Dr. Berlin’s Informed Pregnancy Podcast, Reed and The Vampire Diaries‘ Somerhalder joked that Somerhalder had eagerly thrown away his wife’s birth control when they decided to start a family.
“It was the beginning of the pack, so I had to pop all those suckers out,” Somerhalder laughed, recalling the 2016 Barcelona vacation during which they started trying.
The two welcomed daughter Bodhi Soleil Reed Somerhalder in August.
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Hi Little One I know you, but only because I feel you. How is it possible to love someone so much already? All I know for sure is it's the strongest feeling I've ever felt. We've been sharing this body for quite some time, and we've already experienced so much together. We can't wait to meet you… Love Your parents
Some fans, however, were concerned by the language used during the interview, which did echo common tactics of control and abuse used by men against women. The tale quickly became controversial, inspiring multiple written responses across the web.
On Friday, an infuriated Reed addressed one of those responses, condemning its author for using a false narrative to stir up drama.
Dear writer. Here's my note to you on irresponsible journalism. pic.twitter.com/eiS8M4y3D0
— Nikki Reed (@NikkiReed_I_Am) September 22, 2017
It’s true that Somerhalder’s choice of words (or actions) was imprudent, but Reed has made it 100 percent clear that she consented to starting a family and, in the end, consent is everything.